What to do when you lose yourself

May 24, 2016

I’ve felt a bit lost recently. A bit like my purpose disappeared the moment I handed in my final assignment for First Year at uni. I thought I would be elated (‘No more essays until September, baby!’) , but in reality I was just left feeling unsure about what life would mean without the ever looming presence of Turnitin. It’s not like I have to read three books a week anymore and then write 2000 words on how physical space is used to depict power. And yes, that was an actual question I had to answer.

I feel like it’s probably something we all experience at some point. Life just means that you lose yourself from time to time amongst the madness. But it’s okay because you can always find yourself again. It just might take a bit of time.

Read books by inspiring people

I think my personality is made up of 85% books. I mean, it’s hard for that not to be the case when you see more books than you do sunlight. It’s also no bad thing. In a world that’s been around for this long, it would be ludicrous to suggest that our opinions are entirely individual. So, when I feel lost, I turn to the inspiring words that have previously helped to form the me that I know and love. I’m talking, ‘How to Be a Woman’ by Caitlin Moran, ‘#GIRLBOSS’ by Sophia Amoruso and ‘Revolution’ by Russell Brand.


When you have no purpose, create one. Whether that means scheduling in going to see friends or setting a time every day to blog, write down your short term goals. It doesn’t matter what they are, honestly. You just need to organise your life as though you’re already back to normal again.

Get off social media

Social media is like a maze of people with awesome eyebrows and some serious coding skills. If you want to feel inadequate and like you want to soak up the personalities of everyone who is able to slay a flat lay, stay on it. If you want to find yourself again, turn off twitter and focus on your own life updates.

Be creative (without a goal)

Art. What better way to express yourself? I don’t mean that you have to paint a masterpiece, I just want to to be creative. No restrictions. No ‘ultimate goals’. Just do something that you know you love and do it for a long, long time. I bet you can figure out why I started trying to blog more recently, can’t you?

  1. Romantiquely Online

    May 25th, 2016 at 8:37 am

    Wow this post really did come at a perfect time, I haven't been feeling like myself lately.. Thank you for your book recommendations, one can never read/own too many books! 🙂 xxxxxwww.romantiquely.com

  2. BethanyAustin

    May 25th, 2016 at 4:29 pm

    That makes me so happy. I'm really glad I could help and I hope you feel back to normal soon, lovely xxx

  3. More MindfulYou

    May 25th, 2016 at 11:50 am

    Loved this. xmoremindfulyou.blogspot.com

  4. BethanyAustin

    May 25th, 2016 at 4:29 pm

    I'm so glad! Thank you for reading xxx

  5. Augustin Ra

    May 26th, 2016 at 1:01 pm

    Sometimes, finding yourself again shouldn't be extravagant. I love how you showed it to us, your readers, that getting back on track could just be around the corner in the simplest things. :)Augustin Ra | Indie Spirit

  6. BethanyAustin

    May 27th, 2016 at 4:16 pm

    I could not agree more. I'm so glad you enjoyed the post and thank you for your kind words Augustin xx


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